…A Friend Indeed
August 22nd, 2008 7 Comments»Wordcount: 397
What do you do when a good friend tells you they are going to kill their self? I had a friend tell me today that she thought she no longer wanted to live. At first, I almost dismissed it, but I thought about it for a minute and I realized even if it is bullshit or just a cry for attention, it could very well be real. And if there is even a minuscule possibility that the threat of suicide is real or with real intent, I as a friend could not just sit by and dismiss it. If it was just an empty threat, obviously the thought was there, and I took it as a cry for help on her part. I think she just needed to know that someone cared. Or she just needed to get out her frustrations, but either way, the point I’m trying to make with this post is that no matter what the circumstances, if someone tells you that they are going to kill their self, please take that as a serious intent to end their life and please, please do your very best to help them through it. Don’t sit idly and let someone you love, care about, or just know as an acquaintance end their life because you doubted them or their intent. People sometimes just need to know that they matter, or that they are cared about. If you know someone who talks of suicide, or is suicidal, do what you can to let them know that you are there for them. Make sure they are aware that there are people who love them and care for them and that they matter. That’s all we need sometimes, just that little nudge in the right direction. It doesn’t take alot of effort to care about someone. Hell, it takes more energy, emotion, and time to not care, in my opinion.
To my friend who scared the shit out of me today, I care about you. I value your friendship and I value you as a person. I hope that you never reach the point where those words come out of your mouth again, but if you do please know that I am here and I will be here for as long as you need me to be. It’s the least I can do for you as a friend.
Commenters: Aimey, Cetta, Julie, sasha
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Thanks :)
My best friend (a guy) told me that on my birthday last year and it really pissed me off! I told him to stop his foolishness and get back on track or he will surely lose his kids. After a day or two, he realized I was right and sobered up.
I wish your friend will realize that life is too precious for her to waste it because of doubts and insecurities or whatever it is that is really bothering her.
Wow, Sasha, I’d be so pissed if a friend of mine were that inconsiderate as to ruin my birthday with suicide threats.
She does realize life is precious, she’s just going through a rough patch.
I agree with you. I mean, if you were to tell someone you thought you were ending it all — even if you knew you didn’t have the balls to do it — you’d want that person to be there for you. Treat others the way you want to be treated. That’s how I always think anyway.
Exactly.
I hope she’s ok.
Yes, she’s ok. Thank you Aimey.
Wow, it’s really sad when people feel their lives are not worth living any longer, and you’re right, we as friends need to help them through it so they don’t make a horrible mistake.