Eternal Sunshine..?
February 8th, 2008 6 Comments»Wordcount: 257
I watched Eternal Sunshine For The Spotless Mine on HBO On Demand the other day. I’d seen it before, a few years ago, but for some reason this time the movie really got me thinking. I guess with recent relationship issues, and trying to figure out what I (we) want to do.. it hit home. For those who haven’t seen it, it’s about a couple who after they break up decide to erase each other from their memories. The girl does it first, the guy finds out about it and then he decides to do it.. but he changes his mind and tries to hold on to the memories. What happens though, is that after they had one another erased, they meet again and they are attracted to each other again.. I won’t go into any more detail, cause some people may not have seen it. But anyways, What it got me wondering is, would I ever be able to do that? I mean, if/when Chris and I finally decide to move on, would I want to erase him from my memory? I thought about it.. about the pain, the hurt, the lies.. all the bad things that come to mind when you are considering ending a relationship with someone, and the answer is No. I wouldn’t want to lose the memory of someone I once loved, even if my feelings for that person had changed. All of our experiences and memories help to make us who we are. Anyways, just a random thought I guess.
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You’re so right there. Sure, there’s pain, and if a relationship ends badly, it may take years to move on, but those memories and emotions shape our lives and our personalities, and without them who would we be? That’s an interesting movie, I’ve never seen it, but the idea is interesting that if people don’t remember they were once together, they may be attracted to each other all over again. I suppose that makes sense, as they were attracted to each other in the first place. Another good reason to keep your memories is to learn from past mistakes. That’s so important.
I really hadn’t thought of that until I read your comment.. the learning from your past mistakes thing. I mean, that is a major reason not to forget.. it would make sense to be attracted to the same person again if you had no memory of the person or the relationship.
hey sweetie, ohh wow, that movies is good. I also noticed that you are in the same situation i am in with the hubby! ohh girl i feel your pain, and believe me when i say that everything feels so wrong right now in my life. and i can see that your going through the same thing, with the lies, and all the hurt. my hubby cheated on me, and i only hope thats your didnt, because its such a bad feeling. anyway, us girls gotta stick together, if ya need to talk to me, and we can rant and rave and bitch and complain and cry, and share stories, then IM me at playmateshorty@live.com…which is MSN, if you dont have msn, then let me know which one you got!!!!
Yeah, it IS a good movie. I might watch it again..
I’m sorry for what you are going through.. and my bf has done the same to me in the past. It’s a hard thing to get over. I’m not over it, and probably never will be. I tried earlier to install MSN messenger but for some reason it didn’t work. I’m going to try again, and I’ll message you when I get it working.
Angela i hope you can find someone in the future that loves and really cares for you..
Hey Sibyl, I don’t know how to respond to this because any way I respond to it will probably piss Chris off if he reads it, LOL. The bottom line is that I had hoped he was the one of course, but I’m not sure if he is even capable of being what I need. Maybe.. Idk.