Melancholy…. Missing my friend
September 17th, 2007 21 Comments»Wordcount: 638
Edit: (09/18/2007) I just found out a few minutes ago that an online friend of 10 years has passed away. Brent (aka Syx for those of you who knew him or care..) passed away on Sunday due to liver failure. I don’t know any other details right now, but hope to find out soon. At one time Brent and I were really good friends, but I hadn’t talked to him in awhile. I regret that so much now. He was such a nice person. The good ones always get taken so early. Rest In Peace friend.
I miss Tabitha so much.. and yes, I still cry. I just can’t believe she’s gone. I don’t really have anyone to talk to, maybe that’s why I’m “blogging” about it. I don’t know. She was always there for me when I needed someone to talk to. Don’t get me wrong, she was not a crutch.. she was a friend. I could tell her fucking anything and I mean ANYTHING. This might make me seem pathetic and stupid, but I really don’t care. I fucking miss her. She was the closest thing I had to a true friend. I don’t have anyone in my life that I can share things with like I could with her.. and right now I need to talk to her so fucking bad. Tabitha could relate to me, she knew what I was going through, and she knew exactly how I felt. We had so much in common and at the same time we were completely different. Isn’t that strange? Sometimes I wonder if she sees me when I’m thinking about her.. and I wonder if she knows how much I care about her.
If anyone reading this has a special friend or someone in their life that they love or care about, you should make a little extra effort sometimes to let them know how you feel. Give that person a hug, a kiss.. send them a text message, an email, call them up.. whatever. Just say “hey, I love you” or “I appreciate you” cause you know what? One day you may wish to God that you could do just that, and you won’t be able to. And that’s a horrible feeling, let me tell you.
Last night Chris and I were in the middle of an argument, at the very moment he was saying something along the lines of it not mattering what he says or does to me cause I always end up taking him back or running back to him or whatever.. and a thought occurred to me. Maybe I do “always” come running back.. but always doesn’t really exist, does it? Because there is going to be the one time that I don’t. Or the one time that something happens and we won’t be able to take back the things we said, or he won’t be able to take back the things he’s done.. and then what? I’ve said it a million times before.. there’s no worse feeling than regret and guilt. Especially when it’s something that can’t ever be fixed or taken back. I mean honestly.. no matter how much you love someone or they claim to love you, if there is too much hurt and too much ugliness, wouldn’t it be best to just go your seperate ways and try to move on with your life instead of staying and ruining each other? Sometimes love alone just isn’t enough.. And what if tomorrow doesn’t come..? One day tomorrow won’t come, for each and every one of us. All I’m saying is.. Is it really that hard to be a little more compassionate? For some, I do believe it is. We are all human though.. and not one of us is perfect. Would you really want to be perfect anyways?
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that really sucks about your friend :(. I had kinda a hard time when I lost my grandfather, I knew he was gone but didn’t want to accept that he was gone.
And i wouldn’t want to be perfect. Cause then no one would want to be around you since it would make them look even worse.
Girl, lol. Chris is right. You do always go back to him. No matter what he says to you. Ya’ll been together for like what now, 8 years? LOL.
That is so horribly sad. I feel for you.
I’m sorry to hear about your friend. That’s sad.
There’s no point in saying I understand what you’re going through. I don’t. I can, however, say that I hope it gets better.
And no, I wouldn’t want to be perfect–the world’s view of someone who’s perfect is someone who does nothing for his/herself and is generally horribly boring. No thank you, kind sir: I’ll take my weirdness any day.
I am having the hardest time accepting that my friend Tabitha is gone. I haven’t quite gotten used to this yet. Ten years ago my cousin was brutally murdered, and to this day I still have dreams about her and in my dreams it’s like she never left. I can still hear her voice clearly in my head. Heh.
Anyways, yeah.. being perfect is an imperfection in itself. Everyone one of us is flawed and that’s what makes us unique.
Man, lol. You are blowin up my spot! JK. Yes, it’s been a million years.
Thank you Christine. I feel for their families more than anything.
Thank you. It is sad. I guess there’s a reason for everything and I keep telling myself that I know one day we will all meet again, but it still makes me incredibly sad.
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I would much rather be weird, too. Honestly, if there was such a thing as the perfect person.. how boring would he or she be? And how annoying? lol. Plus I think a person’s flaws and imperfections are what makes them who they are and usually it’s part of the reason that we care for the people we care about.
I’m so sorry. I haven’t experienced a loss of a friend, but when my grandmother died several years ago, I was extremely depressed. I hope you get through this difficult time.
Thank you. I am sorry you had to go through something like that. It’s only natural you’d be depressed. Hopefully you had some support from friends or family.. having someone to talk to does help. I don’t really have anyone that I feel I can talk to about this, and I think that’s one of the reasons it’s so hard for me to deal with.
Quiet i deep blogg you have here today Ang. I know what your saying though. I try not to leave anything on a bad note cause you may never get a chance to change it. Its easy to run from things but its very hard to forget or even ignore. I say the best solution is that if you ave a problem you should sort it there and then, and never delay something that needs to be done. I dunno if you understood that but i knew what i meant lol
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Yea, Rich.. you’re right. It’s hard though, in the heat of the moment when you say certain things that you later regret.. or that you can’t take back. We are all human, sometimes we let our emotions get the best of us. It’s one of many ugly things about people.
*HUGS* I’m sorry hon. It’s so sad to lose a friend, and you’re right, the good ones are taken too soon.
I’m sorry to hear about your friend. I know that losing a loved one is rough. I lost my grandfather back in ‘99 and it was tough for me.
Thanks for your comment on my blog! There are actually supposed to be six “Saw” movies from what I heard from a friend. I dunno how long they can stretch it out; how the hell many plans does Jigsaw have for people? Really…
Blood Diamond was excellent - I enjoyed that, as well - and another movie I saw around that time with Leo in it was “The Departed.” Don’t even get me started on how much I was obsessed with that movie…
I saw Type O earlier this year and they were phenomenal, so I bet the Halloween show is going to be stellar. I can’t wait.
The Departed is my favorite movie of all time! I am obsessed with it, too. Also, Leo is hot. lol
Thank you Julie.
Hey! I’m so very sorry to bother you in your personal space here but I followed the link from your once-active GreatestJournal.com account “ego”. I was wondering whether you are still using the username or are ever planning to use it again? I would love to use it if you could be kind enough to grant me that opportunity. I completely understand if you don’t want to do this but I just thought it wouldn’t hurt to ask! I’m sorry again for intruding into your personal space! (:
Thank you for hearing me out,
Karen!
Angela,
So sorry you’re missing Tabitha. I do understand what it’s like to have someone taken from your life so suddenly, and I feel your pain. I wish I could over some tried and true wisdom here, but in reality the pain of losing someone never goes away. Some days are better than others, yes, but there’s always that emptiness that just makes you long for their companionship. *hugs*
Sorry about Brent too. I didn’t know him, but it’s always sad when someone passes. And you hit it on the head–The good ones are always taken too soon.
And, no, I do not want to be perfect. Perfection in itself is imperfect, really, isn’t it? I mean, doesn’t everyone strive for something in their life to go better? Surely even those people we view as ‘perfect’ have their insecurities as well…
Also, whoops, will be working on my site again soon. Had to get the boy into a routine of going to school (3 weeks now, woohoo), and the daughter’s birthday zapped what little energy I had left from my system. Take care ~~ Josie
Hi Josie,
It is hard when you lose someone.. and you are right, I don’t think you ever fully recover or get back to “normal”. I lost a very close cousin nearly 10 years ago and everyday my heart still aches and I miss her dearly. It’s something I know I will feel for the rest of my life.
I have a 7 year old boy, and he just went back to school 3 weeks ago as well. It takes a little while to get back into that routine.. for him as well as me, lol. I am glad that school is back in session though, honestly. And a birthday too. No wonder you are exhausted. LOL.